🌍 “Finding Peace Beyond the States”

Auntea: Tammi Nicole Carrington ☕

Topic: Discernment, self-love, and choosing peace wherever you are

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✈️ Auntie Tammi’s Passport to Peace

Hey sugars 💖 — meet Auntie Tammi Carrington, a DMV native who’s turned her curiosity into a global lifestyle. From Panama to Puerto Rico to maybe even Nigeria, Auntie Tammi’s not just traveling — she’s transforming.

“I find peace outside of the States now.”

She’s part of a growing number of Black women exploring life abroad, building communities, and rediscovering freedom in new spaces.

But before she stamped her first passport, Auntie Tammi was a D.C. and PG County girl just like you — trying to make sense of school, home, and who she was becoming.

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🎒 From Catholic School to Crossland High

Auntie Tammi’s school story? Whew, a rollercoaster. She started in Catholic school — skirts, structure, and all — and begged her mom to let her try public school.

It didn’t go exactly how she planned.

“I lost my mind my first year. Big school, co-ed, no structure. I thought I was grown.” 😅

Even though her grades held up, skipping school and chasing fun caught up with her. But she says that experience taught her more than any classroom could.

“It showed me who I was socially — and who I wasn’t.”

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🧠 Sugar Q: “Do women really have special powers of discernment?”

“Yes, absolutely,” Auntie Tammi says. “We have to. We’re the givers of life.”

She believes every woman is born with discernment — that deep inner knowing that helps you sense what’s right, wrong, or off. But here’s the catch:

“You can lose it if you stop listening to yourself.”

Between distractions, noise, and pressure to “fit in,” it’s easy to tune out your own voice. Auntie Tammi learned the hard way that reclaiming discernment takes time, space, and stillness.

💡 The Tea:

Discernment is your superpower, sugar — don’t let the world talk you out of it.

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💔 Sugar Q: “What happens if I don’t listen to my inner voice?”

“Lessons,” she laughs. “Hard ones, but lessons.”

“There are no bad experiences — just lessons that fortify you for your purpose.”

When you ignore your gut, life will always reroute you back to the truth. The faster you listen, the fewer detours you take.

💡 The Tea:  

Every time you ignore that inner whisper, life turns up the volume.

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💞 Sugar Q: “How do I know if a guy’s right for me?”

Auntie Tammi says your body always knows before your brain does.

“If you feel safe being yourself — no mask, no pressure — that’s your sign.”

But if you have to act, filter, or shrink yourself to keep his interest? 🚩

“You can’t build love on anxiety. You’ll eventually drop the mask — and that’s when the truth shows.”

💡 The Tea: 

Real love feels like peace, not performance.

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💕 Sugar Q: “Can you be too kind to friends?”

“Oh yes,” Auntie Tammi says. “Ms. Tammi has learned that lesson.”

Being the “nice friend” sounds sweet — until it drains you.

“Energy vampires are real. When you’re always the listener, the helper, the giver — you forget to pour back into yourself.”

And the result? Burnout, resentment, and imbalance.

💡 The Tea: 

Protect your peace. You can be kind and have boundaries.

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🌸 Sugar Q: “How do I build real friendships — not fake ones?”

Auntie Tammi says true friendships are rare because social media makes it easy to “disconnect instead of repair.”

“Back in the day, we had to work it out. Now girls just hit unfollow.”

Her advice? Stay grounded in real connection — honesty, patience, and emotional effort.

💡 The Tea: 

Friendships take work. The ones that last are worth it. 💗

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🧘🏽‍♀️ Sugar Q: “How do I strengthen my discernment again?”

Start by getting quiet. No phones, no noise, just you.

“You can’t hear your own voice if you’re never alone with it.”

And seek wisdom from the women who’ve walked before you.

“Listen to your mom, your auntie, your grandmother. They’ve lived what you’re living — just in a different decade.”

💡 The Tea: 

Stillness is strength. The answers come when you stop scrolling and start listening.

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💋 Simi’s Sip

Auntie Tammi reminds us that discernment isn’t something you find — it’s something you keep alive. Whether you’re traveling the world or finding peace right here in the DMV, never forget that your intuition is divine.

Trust it. Protect it. Live by it.

Not a lecture, just a sip of tea. ☕💖

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💁🏽‍♀️ Meet the Auntea— Tammi Nicole Carrington

Tammi Nicole Carrington is a creative spirit, dancer, and lifelong learner who splits her time between D.C. and destinations abroad. A proud Jack and Jill alum and arts advocate, she encourages young women to trust their inner wisdom and live authentically — wherever life takes them.

📸 Follow her travels on Instagram: @tammicarrington